46 to 60

As you might imagine, I did not intend to write a post called 46 to 60. It was supposed to be 50 to 60. But the days fly by.

And it occurs to me, as I pause to consider this approaching birthday by writing something about it, that in singling out these 60 days prior to turning 60 as a time to reflect, to appreciate all that has come before, I’ve created a microcosm of my life–each day potentially standing in for a year. I could have taken each day and looked back on a year.

But here we are already, 14 days in. And yes, I started my year of posts not on the first but on the 13th. So that sounds about right…

In my day-to-day living, despite being a writer, I so rarely pause to consider my life. After all, these days I’m trying to be present; I’m trying to live this life. During my year of posts, however, I did consider. And now I’m going to again. I’m going to look back for a moment before I begin to look forward.

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my first 14 years

On the first of April in 1957, during a blizzard, I’m born in Rapid City, South Dakota. Three weeks later, my first trip–cross-country in a car to Atlanta, where we will live.

10_cindy_0221958: Wearing a polka dot dress with smocking on the front and a bow in the back, I reach out to touch the flame on my birthday candle. I don’t cry, but from the expression on my face, my faith in the world takes a hit. I climb out of my baby bed in the dark, dropping to the floor. I wear my father’s dungarees and love our dog Lance. My sister is born in December.

10_cindy_1431959: I receive lots of things for Christmas but what I do first is sit down at my new table to read a book.

10_cindy_1411960: A new decade for the world and a new sister for me. In the photos I seem to do what people tell me to, but there’s a series this year where it looks as if I refuse to smile. My first memory comes somewhere around here–grown-ups drinking green drinks and the brick ledge around the fireplace.

1961: Long legs and short shorts, I turn 4 this year, amazed by my newly discovered older second cousins. I remember my father walking across the stage to receive his PhD from Georgia Tech.

1962: We move to the house where I will grow up. I start kindergarten and hear French for the first time–I am mesmerized. I remember watching John Glenn orbit the earth on TV.

1963: My 6th birthday is my first one at school, and no one believes me–the trouble with being an April Fool. But I want the birthday carton of milk. I remember being worried I wasn’t going to get it. I also remember answering the phone on November 22, 1963, and listening to my great-aunt tell me that the president had been shot, then looking down the hall but not seeing anyone.

19641964: I play with dolls even though I have no recollection of this. What I remember is playing school with animals around a table, dancing to Jesse James at my grandparents’ house, playing ship on the gray steps out our kitchen door, playing something (explorer?) for hours in the small bushes that surround our back yard. Another sister is born.

19651965: My grandfather dies. I go to the funeral, and right before my grandmother gets in the car, I say, “Pop never got to meet Beth (my new sister), did he?” My mother shushes me. I remember feeling stupid. I turn 8. My mother takes us out of school for the six weeks before Christmas, which we spend in Florida. My next oldest sister and I are allowed to walk downtown by ourselves to eat lunch at the drugstore. I remember pouring down rain and calling my mother to come get us and her saying, “It’s Florida. Wait five minutes and it will be over.” Again I feel stupid.

19661966: My father drives us to see the hippies on Tenth Street. There are protests against the war and Walter Cronkite every night with footage of Vietnam–Hanoi, Cambodia, Laos, Ho Chi Minh are household words. I sit with my housekeeper in the kitchen waiting for news from the hospital–it has happened. I have a brother.

1967: Everything happened the year I was 10. I read Gone With the Wind and take friends to see the movie on my birthday. (I LOVE to read.) My grandmother takes me to Europe–10 countries in 14 days. My grandfather takes me to my first concert–the Monkees. I write my first novel with my best friend.

1968: In the spring is the My Lai Massacre. The total of American combat deaths reaches 22,951. Then, a few days after my I turn eleven, Martin Luther King is shot. I’m watching TV in the basement, and I remember taking off up the steps to tell everyone. Marty Jr was in my grade at Spring Street. Two months later, I wake up to my father sitting on my bed to tell me Robert Kennedy has died. Nixon is elected.

10_cindy_0581969: And now I’m listening to the Age of Aquarius… I mean right this minute as I type these words. This was the year of Woodstock and Joni Mitchell. There’s busing and integration. We wear POW and MIA bracelets. I’m 12, tall and thin on my last day at my public grammar school, but during the summer, I stay at my grandparents’ house in Mobile and do nothing but eat and watch TV. I have no sense of my body and gain 25 pounds without noticing. I start 7th grade at a private school.

photo_00221970: Another new decade. I turn 13. Four dead in Ohio. That summer, for the first time, I head to New England–to a French camp in Vermont for 7 weeks. No one meets me in New York to help me change planes, and I do it by myself. In Vermont, the air feels right in a way I won’t understand until much later. I listen to James Taylor and Carol King. Camp is as magical as those first French words I heard at the age of 5.

1971-05-011971: When the new year begins, I’m in 8th grade, which is when I get caught sneaking out a window to meet a boy–at a latin convention. I learn I don’t like how it feels to be in trouble, to be forced to say, “I’m sorry.” For too many years, not-getting-in-trouble will be the way I make decisions. The Apollo 13 astronauts arrive home safely, which I don’t remember, and the Beatles disband, which I do. I think you can’t disband, you’re the Beatles. During the summer I spend another 7 weeks in Vermont. I am less angry than I was at 13.

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a series of posts during the 60 days leading to my 60th birthday

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Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?
Mary Oliver

10 thoughts on “46 to 60

    • Hey, Anne! How are you? When I started writing the post, I knew I was going to see what I could remember quickly about each year, but I wasn’t sure if I was going to include the memories in the post until the last second. Your comment made me glad I did. Thank you! BTW, did you get to Provincetown this past October?

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  1. This is just beautiful! I remember so many of these world events myself–loved going back in time. “Age of Aquarius!” My friends and I loved that song. “Up, up and Away!” Thank you for this!

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  2. My favorite thing about this is that you didn’t let imperfection–not starting this visiting with the years of yourself at 60 days out–stop you from going after this lovely new project. My next favorite thing is the oddness of some of your memories. As an example, it always amazes me that first memories are often so innocuous. Why on earth should you remember green-drinking adults and a fireplace? Similarly, my first memory is of a pair of Christmas-mouse pajamas. ?? There must have been something so arresting about those green drinks and those jammies, OR — I wonder — do we remember them b/c of something really surprising or alarming that happened just before or after? And THAT thing melted away? Who knows. Anyway, it’s lovely that you can use the embarrassment of riches you have re photos. I am deeply jealous of the people I know who own these treasure troves of images, and I love seeing yours here. Question: Why were you angry at 13? And what made you less so the next year? And what makes you remember being angry at so young an age? I could go on forever about this post, but final thought: Doesn’t it stun you that an 8-year-old and her sister were allowed to walk downtown to get lunch? I was allowed to do some pretty independent things at 7 and 8 as well, and lots more with each additional year. I’m amazed when I think of how much ideas about parenting and child safety have changed. Happy remembering, Cyn!

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    • Haha. Green drinks and mouse pajamas. I worked hard on the photos–pouring through boxes and having them digitalized and putting them in order. I did it for the same reason I’m writing these posts–trying to understand that I AM that person. And I thought everyone was angry at 13??? My mother and I were often at odds during those years. I felt ready to fly and of course I wasn’t. The more I was able to do by myself, the less angry I became. The more I was out in the world, the happier I was. And yes, I’m re-stunned every time I think of my 8-year-old self walking the few blocks to the drugstore for lunch. It must have been a very different world. BTW, I wanted you to know I haven’t forgotten that song titles go in quotes, but I found I wanted the more nostalgic feel of italics for these posts…

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  3. Nice image, Sarah–“hopscotch” of memories. When I was doing the one true thing, I checked with my mother to make sure I was remembering correctly, that I did all those things at ten, because I didn’t think it could be true. But yes, my ten-year-old self–I’m in awe of her too : )

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